Sex is one of the most important components of any relationship, no matter how someone would like to say otherwise. If everything is good in bed, there will also be harmony in the relationship. But often partners are silent about their preferences and secret desires, remaining unsatisfied.
How to talk to your husband about sex, and why these conversations are needed – read in the material.
What role does sex play in a relationship?
Sex is your space in a relationship that is closed to other people. Behind this closed door, you can embody all your fantasies and secret desires. By having sex, we, firstly, get closer to our loved ones, and secondly, relieve tension, relax. The highest point of pleasure is an orgasm, in women, unlike men, it does not occur every time, but only when the whole process goes perfectly. In order for everything to be the way you want, the partner needs to know about your preferences.
How to say about your desire for sex
Don’t expect a miracle, men can’t read minds and don’t understand hints. You need to act “on the forehead”: first, ask if everything suits him in your sex, what would he like to change or try. And then tell us about your ideas for the diversity of sexual life. There is nothing to be ashamed of, it is unlikely that you have something in mind that is still not applicable to mankind. It’s time to understand that all people have sex and wanting to try something new is absolutely normal. You need to talk about such things from the very beginning of the relationship, because who better than you to know yourself better. His ex loved only classic sex in one position, and you are silent about your “Wishlist”. Therefore, you will do as she liked.
How to respond to an initiative from a husband
If your man is trying to bring something new into the relationship, always take it with enthusiasm. After all, if you always reject him, he will find the one who agrees to realize all his fantasies. But this does not mean at all that you are obliged to fulfill everything invented by your husband, against your will. We need to talk, find a compromise, offer our own. For example: “I like your bondage idea, but let’s do without a gag, I think this is superfluous. I propose to add a whip. What do you think?”. Your husband will see your interest. And what could be sexier than a woman who sincerely loves you and wants you?
If you both want a variety
A good way to get inspired is to watch porn movies together. It’s a huge mistake to think that if your husband watches porn, it means he doesn’t want you, and, in principle, take it for treason. Watching porn is normal for both men and women, whether they are in a relationship or single. Masturbation is a natural process, and believe me, everyone does it. At the same time, everyone is embarrassed to discuss and admit it. It is only important to distinguish between porn and reality, where everything is completely different.
Ordinary feature films can also inspire something new. But it’s not enough to buy handcuffs and a whip after watching Fifty Shades of Grey. BDSM is a whole sexual subculture that goes beyond taboos. It is important to study this issue and decide if you like this format of sexual relationships.
Bottom line: talking about sex is very important, because only by discussing it, we can find out about the desires of a loved one and make him happier. Sex cannot be excluded from a relationship, because it is one of the forms of rapprochement, along with a sincere conversation. Discussing taboos in sex is also very important, because not to mention that you don’t like it, you accumulate resentment towards your partner.
If you want to change something in your bed, talk about it directly, your loved one will definitely understand. And with no hesitation!
Editorial Team
